What to Reply When a Parent Apologizes for Something From Your Childhood
A parent acknowledging and apologizing for something from your childhood can be a significant, emotional moment, whether it brings healing or brings up complicated feelings. Your reply should honor your genuine emotional response rather than what you think you're supposed to feel.
Use these when
- When a parent apologizes for a past hurtful action or pattern from your childhood
- When you want to honor your genuine emotional response rather than rushing to reassure them
- When the apology brings up complex feelings that deserve acknowledgment
Skip these if
- Don't rush to reassure them if you're still processing your own feelings
- Don't dismiss the significance of the apology, even if healing takes more time
- Don't feel obligated to fully forgive immediately just because they apologized
12 replies to choose from
That means a lot, I've thought about that for a long time.
I appreciate you saying that, I'm still processing how I feel about it.
Thank you for acknowledging that, it really does help.
I'm really glad you said that, it means more than you know.
I know that wasn't easy to say, thank you for being honest.
I can tell that took courage, I appreciate you.
It's okay, we were all doing our best at the time.
I forgive you, and I'm glad we can talk about it now.
I appreciate the apology, though I still need some time with it.
Thank you for saying that, I'm not fully there yet, but it helps.
Thank you, that means a lot.
I appreciate you saying that.
Make it fit your exact message
Common questions
- How do I respond if I'm not ready to fully forgive?
- You can thank them for the apology honestly while being clear that you need more time to process it fully.
- Is it normal to feel emotional when a parent apologizes like this?
- Yes, it can bring up a complex mix of relief, grief, and validation, all of which are valid reactions.
- Should I ask for more detail about what they're apologizing for?
- If it would help your own understanding or healing, it's fair to ask for clarity on their perspective.
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